My goal for my son has always been that he be as functional, happy, productive and independent as possible. That goal is ongoing, ever-expanding and never fully realized, which is why it must be immune to any label of finality anyone might attempt to attach to an undefinable outcome. It’s the same goal every parent wants for his or her child. In this, kids with autism are no different than the next child, but we do not call it “fixing” or “curing” so-called typically-developing children when we teach them the skills they need to succeed. Our kids with autism have a tougher path to tread than some of their peers. But why make it even harder with incendiary language and expectations?