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“I am here for you.” Raising a child with autism can seem like a vice of minute-by-minute management: engineering the strict structure he needs, the visits to professionals whose expertise we need, our own need to feel that we are doing everything we can, or at least doing enough – these needs frequently dictate all [...]

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Counterpoint time. The subject is denial. Not a week goes by wherein I don’t hear from someone who thinks a parent or parents are in denial about a child’s autism. Indeed, some are. And indeed, some are not. What rarely gets voiced is the parent’s reaction to that loaded allegation. The following is a composite [...]

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A parent asks: My son was diagnosed with autism at six. I have never grieved for what could have been—this is who he is. Like anyone, he has good days and bad days.  We don’t focus on the label, we focus on learning what we need to know to help him learn in his different [...]

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A decade ago, my oldest son Connor walked across a stage to accept his high school diploma, and a long chapter in my life came to an end. Three weeks later, then-13-year-old Bryce boarded a plane with a group of classmates and teachers to fly 3,000 miles across the continent to tour New York, Pennsylvania [...]

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So, your child or student with autism does not listen, will not listen, never listens. This seems to be the theme in my mailbox this week. Here’s my answer: How do you know? Gotta ask: Do you equate listening with compliance? Just because she doesn’t give the response you want doesn’t mean she’s not listening. [...]

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A paraeducator asks: I work with a student with autism. Yesterday an incident came up that I didn’t know how to handle. The children were returning to the classroom from library time, and my student wanted to be lights-on monitor, although it wasn’t her turn. When another student began to do the job, my student [...]

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Seven Pillars of Wisdom for Autism Parents

Published on January 1, 2016 by in News

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“Wisdom has built her house. She has carved out her seven pillars.” Proverbs 9:1 Finally! You’re about to read an article about New Year’s resolutions that doesn’t put forth one syllable about losing weight, saving money or organizing your closet. You know, one memorable year I did lose the weight and salt cash away. The [...]

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“If you can’t explain it simply, you don’t understand it well enough.” This, from one of the 20th century’s foremost complex thinkers, Albert Einstein, who also said, “I very rarely think in words at all.” And a couple of millenia before Einstein,  Cicero deemed brevity “a great charm of eloquence.” Legions of authors nowadays try [...]

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“What kind of toys do autistic children like?” “What should I buy for my ______ who has autism?” Though I hear more of these questions at this time of year, they crop up in every month, in daily life and for special occasions. To the former question, I call out the generalization; the question makes [...]

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Autism parenting: Handing off the marathon metaphor

Published on September 29, 2015 by in News

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As parents of children with autism, one of our most beloved clichés advises us that our journey is a marathon, not a sprint. We need stamina more than fast starts. We need patience. We need to pace ourselves. We need to remember to enjoy the scenery along the way.  The metaphor seems so fitting, I [...]

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